tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post4591736983464832014..comments2024-03-06T16:53:46.922-08:00Comments on Trying to Gain Perspective: Questions I Had About The Hookup CultureJ. Iliana Sernahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11226072390025896994noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-50294675235065151192016-07-20T01:45:28.458-07:002016-07-20T01:45:28.458-07:00You do know me. If it's all the same to you, ...You do know me. If it's all the same to you, I'll remain anonymous though. <br /><br />Yes, those who hold onto their high standards will rarely let themselves find contentment with what one person can offer. But these are the same people who focus on their careers and always want to move forward and move up in the corporate ladder or in their own ladder of influence. But I have never understood this logic, people want to climb so high that they make it nearly impossible for anyone to come to their level and meet their standards of never-ending progression. In my opinion, it is much more effective and fulfilling to find someone who will help you, encourage you, and be a companion to you reaching your goals in life. Whether it is in the highs or the lows of the seemingly stock-like rollercoaster, they see value and worth in you enough to want to be with you through it all. Instead, people try to reach their peak worth through success and high standards, enjoying the hookups along the way, and they never find that person for them because at the top they will only find people like themselves, who will base worth on the success and not on the journey, love, or personality of the person. <br /><br />But then again, I don't like to generalize, it is possible to wait and still find love. But I think more people need to stop seeing their love lives as a separate entity of their career path, and rather see it as something that can greatly empower someone to stay confident and encouraged in their career path. <br /><br />As for that bliss, I think (depending on your definition of bliss) bliss and happiness can definitely be found in the hookup culture. In fact the bliss is what draws a lot of people to the hookup life because they can forget about everything else in their life and not have to worry about anything long term. But security, peace, companionship, fulfillment, friendship, and love. Those are what happens when you find that person that means the world to you. They are indeed hard to find, but you also have to look in the right places. The hookup culture just doesn't offer that. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-48690500318014575582016-07-20T00:12:35.038-07:002016-07-20T00:12:35.038-07:00I think it is really hard to find those kind of pe...I think it is really hard to find those kind of people. I also think that anyone with high standards will have trouble finding anyone they can be content with. I know its a problem I have. I think you make a good point though that everyone wants to be desired and pursued. I completely agree. And there is a special bliss to being happy with who you have if that person means a lot to you.<br /><br />Btw, I'm pretty sure you're the same person who commented on five of my other blogs these past few days. I'm just curious if I know you.J. Iliana Sernahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226072390025896994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-69042275370501346542016-07-19T16:49:54.989-07:002016-07-19T16:49:54.989-07:00I can see why the hookup culture is so alluring th...I can see why the hookup culture is so alluring though. No matter what anybody says, or whether they are in a great relationship or not, I think ever man and women has a desire to be pursued. A desire to be desired. If only to feed a sexual hunger, that person still needs you. And it does empower you. At some times more than others it is sad, but for a lot of people it is more than just true, it is their life. To please and be pleased. To want and be wanted. To challenge and be challenged. To be the thief and to be the victim. Although, you do have to step back and realize that it would be a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction. The key is to have self control to put that hunger to rest. To have the self control to choose to be content with a great guy, or a great girl. Not ever settling, but being at peace with knowing that what you have with who you have is enough (if that person really does mean that much to you). <br /><br />But in this day and age, I feel like its becoming harder and harder to find those kinds of people. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-43742054152559206262016-07-19T00:18:29.568-07:002016-07-19T00:18:29.568-07:00Great blog. I was getting impatient waiting. Great...Great blog. I was getting impatient waiting. Great message<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com