tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post9042809320601754195..comments2024-03-06T16:53:46.922-08:00Comments on Trying to Gain Perspective: "But, Like Seriously... I Mean No"J. Iliana Sernahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11226072390025896994noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-43339599949200059812015-01-19T20:33:58.684-08:002015-01-19T20:33:58.684-08:00I completely agree with you, but I also think the ...I completely agree with you, but I also think the issue is more complex than we want it to be. Often times, girls don't even know what they want, and they are attracted to persistent guys, whether it's healthy or not. But the most attractive thing is a respectful persistent guy who has enough dignity to know when to stop.J. Iliana Sernahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226072390025896994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-43194467514735943852015-01-17T12:23:44.840-08:002015-01-17T12:23:44.840-08:00Yeah, and at least on a relational level, shouldn&...Yeah, and at least on a relational level, shouldn't a guy be pursuing a girl who is going to be honest with him, and shouldn't that girl be honest with him about what she wants? Likewise, girls should be pursuing someone who is going to respect them and their words. <br /><br />Not being pushy or overbearing or inappropriately persistent might actually be attractive to a girl. I'm not a girl, so I don't know, but I think there are still some girls who find respectful guys attractive, and that's a quality that is lacking so much in our culture. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-27920862017927211042015-01-16T16:31:32.844-08:002015-01-16T16:31:32.844-08:00Thank you. I really appreciate your thoughts on th...Thank you. I really appreciate your thoughts on the topic. I think we've definitely come to an age where a girl doesn't have to be afraid for seeming too upfront or even going after what she wants. Women can definitely say yes, and they do, but you're right about the self-control thing. It's something that isn't exercised enough. J. Iliana Sernahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226072390025896994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2328420434690979453.post-1444368800900765252015-01-16T03:01:58.282-08:002015-01-16T03:01:58.282-08:00Its totally an issue of self control too. Guys do...Its totally an issue of self control too. Guys don't want to hear the word "no" because then that means they have to put the brakes on. They would rather play with the idea that "she could really mean yes" so that they can keep moving forward with what THEY want, what THEY are after. <br /><br />It's sad too because there is no consideration for how the girl feels or what the girl wants. You are so right in saying that if the girl wanted to say yes then she would have (or should have) said yes. When a guy disregards when a girl says no, or translates "no" as "yes" or "maybe", it shows that he only cares about what he thinks and he doesn't consider the fact that no might actually mean no. Her words have no weight to a selfish guy with no self-control. And I'm not saying that's every guy, or even that its every guy who doesn't always think no means no (like your friend who says he can tell the difference)...I just think there's too many guys like that in our culture today, and too many girls who become victims of this stupid game. Anyways, great blog and great topic that I think a lot of girls and guys need to talk about and clarify. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com